You are sitting around the table in a meeting, you believe there are problems that the group needs to discuss. The voice in your head is asking a series of questions. You are asking yourself why can’t these people see the problem as clearly as me; you are asking why can’t I seem to convince these people to understand my point of view. You decide to stop talking as you are concerned of putting others offside. Ironically, the others are sitting around the table saying why don’t I just speak up; another is saying I hope the questions don’t come my way; when can we move on. Fast forward to the end of the meeting, as you walk out of the meeting you ask yourself why don’t I just speak up? Why do I get defensive? Why aren’t I prepared to change? Why do I shy away from making the hard decision? Why do I make up information to help support my story? The simple answer is FEAR. Fear of humiliation, shame, failure, rejection, loss of connectedness, abandonment, loss of autonomy, death etc. This is a scenario lived every day of people’s lives. What we are talking about is the … Continue reading Getting real about our fears will change our decisions